:-(

[foxmonkey]

Feeling a little weird this morning, kinda sad weird, not creeped-out weird.

I was unfriended not too long ago by someone I liked, whose entries were interesting. Didn't realize how interesting until lately, when cruising through my friends list where I'd read a post and then see it was this person.

Didn't really hurt until this morning, when I was cruising around and saw another entry of hers and tooled through her journal then checked out her friends list. And now, looking at her friends list and how many friends we have in common, it seems personal, for some reason, when I was cool with it before. So, of course I'm wondering about the real reason I was unfriended, and kicking myself for caring.

Whatever. :-(

Eh, gimme a few hours and it'll pass.

Comments

[merryish.livejournal.com]

I wonder, though, if maybe people read too much into the technical aspect of who is friended and who isn't.

I know some people friends-lock posts; I almost did once, and then didn't, but the truth is it never occurs to me to do it. And so conversely, it never really occurs to me that others do it, too. And I don't just read my own friends page; I also read Kaneko's, and Sandy's, and Dacey's, and Rhys's. The reason I don't friend a lot of people is because I look at my own friends list and think, "Whoa, that's a lotta names. Kaneko already friended Person X, so I'll just read her over there."

Also, my charming personality comes complete with compulsive neatness disorder -- I can't stand to have dishes in my sink (thanks, mom =\ ), I can't stand to have too many windows open on my desktop (hence only one IRC channel at a time usually), and I can't stand looking at my friends list and seeing tons and tons of names on it.

So I guess all I'm saying is, people have lots of reasons for unfriending people that can be completely non-personal. I even unfriended someone accidentally once, because I clicked the wrong button and didn't realize it until a few days later when a post from the person I thought I had unfriended showed up on my friends page.

It's Sunday afternoon and I'm sick and I feel bad enough for both of us. So, you know. Feel better. =)

[foxmonkey.livejournal.com]

I wonder, though, if maybe people read too much into the technical aspect of who is friended and who isn't.

Which, of course, is why I feel so silly about it. But I'm human, and being human I worry about silly things sometimes. Wish I didn't, though. Argh.

The reason I don't friend a lot of people is because I look at my own friends list and think, "Whoa, that's a lotta names. Kaneko already friended Person X, so I'll just read her over there."

Which is an excellent point. Still, when a list has been pared down and it's still over the 120 mark, ya gotta wonder. I think I'm just at a paranoid point in my biorhythm cycle. ;-)

It's Sunday afternoon and I'm sick and I feel bad enough for both of us. So, you know. Feel better. =)

Thank you for responding; I feel a bit better about it, now that eight or so hours have passed since my initial freak-out. And your points are good ones - removing someone as a friend isn't always personal. Feels like it, but it ain't necessarily so.

I can't do much for you in return except send sincere wishes that you're feeling better soon!

Thanks again. :-)